04 February 2010

2/4: oh dear - looks like we are on a roll


I'm shocked.  We have ZERO tolerance for hitting in this house. The few times she did it - probably 4 or 5 months ago now, there was a swift time out and a very scary mean face on mama, and boy did Elsa get upset.   It has not happened again - at home anyway.  I can't help but think she is testing the teachers to see if they are as hardass as I am. 

So, how is me talking to her, hours later, supposed to help?  I want them to give her consequences in the moment.  Looks like I'm going to have to talk to her teacher. How annoying.

10 comments:

Kate said...

Clearly the teacher was cruisin for a bruisin.

KateM said...

It is a phase and I agree, the delayed implications are not so helpful at this age.
Hang in there. You might try to let her hit a pillow at home for some agression release. It helped with my boys. She needs to be taught what to do with the feelings of frustration she has, not to not have the feelings... give her a "mad pillow". you can have one too, and show her how to use it. Okay, enough out of me. Call me if ou want more details.

Suzanne said...

I like KateM's advice. We were not allowed to express anger growing up, and as a result, my sisters and I are First Class Stuffers. We can stash anger so deep no one would ever know it's even there. But then what's the point of that?

porter said...

She doesn't actually seem to have a hard time expressing frustration/anger - she does it vocally. Very well. And we practice mad faces (complete with clenched fists and growling) at home. I'm kind of convinced she's just testing the teachers. But we'll see...

paige said...

I hope they are asking you to support the message they have already delivered, rather than deliver the message. I'm sure that must be it, right?

stephanie said...

Been there, done that. This too shall pass, but it sucks in the meantime. There are still some times when M wants to hit but now he hesitates while raising his hand and looks at my face. He then poops in his pants because it's such a scary face.

hazel said...

I agree, it just sounds likes she's just testing her teachers.

CKD said...

I'm sure she's testing teachers. And kids will also mimic something they saw - Evan went through a delightful kicking phase when a Preschooler Fight Club broke out. But the teachers and our family were a team and there were immediate consequences, not just talks hours later. Good luck with the teachers!

3continentfamily said...

It's a phase- really and truly. Minh had a bout of throwing everything (and I mean EVERYTHING) and it just takes consistency and patience. No fun though.

Natasha said...

I hope that before Miss Amy fills out the incedent report she doles out some consequences. Toddlers do this! That is what preschool is about -- socialization. Isn't that what you pay for? Preschool teachers get paid to help kids learn to deal with issues in a productive and age-appropriate way.

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